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How to treat wife according to Islam?

Hameed Naseem: Prophet Muhammad says treat your wives with kindness On the Last Hajj – called Farewell Pilgrimage – Prophet Muhammad stood among 100,000 faithful followers on Mount Arafat making his last will and testament. His message was being echoed to the entire assembly through persons appointed to repeat what they heard onward to others who could not directly hear him.

• He also willed that his message be carried to one and all through the ages until the Last Day so those that were not present might follow even better than those who were gathered there with him on that holy day.
• He said, “Oh people, listen to my words; for I do not know if I shall be among you after this year.

Remember that you have to appear before your Lord who will demand from you an account of all your actions.” He said, “Oh people, you have rights over your wives, and your wives have rights over you. Remember, you must always treat your wives with kindness.

1. Woman is weak and cannot protect her own rights.
2. When you got married, God appointed you the trustees of those rights.
3. You brought your wives to your homes under the Law of God.
4. You must not, therefore, insult the trust which God has placed in your hands.” Prophet Muhammad advised Muslims to marry; he forbade the practice of celibacy.

He said, “Marriage is my precept and my practice. Those who do not follow my practice are not of me.” He also said, “When a man has married, he has completed one half of his religion.” Prophet Muhammad said, “Best among you is one who is best to his wife, and I am best among you in my dealings with my wives.” Once a Persian neighbor of the Prophet who was well-known for his excellent cuisine invited the Prophet for dinner.

• The Prophet inquired if the invitation was extended to his wife as well.
• Upon receiving the answer in the negative, the prophet turned down the invitation.
• The neighbor returned in the afternoon and invited him again.
• Prophet Muhammad asked him again if his wife was also invited.
• The neighbor refused to invite his wife, upon which the Prophet once again turned down the invitation.

The neighbor came a third time and invited both of them. Prophet Muhammad gladly accepted the invitation and accompanied his wife to the neighbor’s house for dinner. In some older cultures and religions, women were forced to separate themselves away from their families during their menstrual periods.

1. The Holy Qur’an declared that the period of menstruation was a cause of discomfort and suffering for the women and therefore men were barred from having sex with their wives during this period and were asked to let them alone.
2. Prophet Muhammad treated his wives with special care during those days and showed more love and attention to them.

His wife, Aisha, says, “During the days of menstrual cycle the Prophet would drink from my cup, especially from the site I had taken a sip, and used to take a bite from the same piece of meat I had eaten from.” Allah says in the Holy Qur’an that the Holy Prophet Muhammad is a role model for all Muslims to follow as he shows through his conduct the true meaning of the word of God.

How to treat your wife according to Quran?

Women in the Quran and the Sunnah

• Professor and Director, Center for Islamic Legal Studies, Ahmadu Bello University, Zaire.
• In Islam there is absolutely no difference between men and women as far as their relationship to Allah is concerned, as both are promised the same reward for good conduct and the same punishment for evil conduct. The Qur’an says:

And for women are rights over men similar to those of men over women. (2:226)

2. The Qur’an, in addressing the believers, often uses the expression, ‘believing men and women’ to emphasize the equality of men and women in regard to their respective duties, rights, virtues and merits. It says:

For Muslim men and women, for believing men and women, for devout men and women, for true men and women, for men and women who are patient and constant, for men and women who humble themselves, for men and women who give in charity, for men and women who fast, for men and women who guard their chastity, and for men and women who engage much in Allah’s praise, for them has Allah prepared forgiveness and great reward.

• This clearly contradicts the assertion of the Christian Fathers that women do not possess souls and that they will exist as sexless beings in the next life. The Qur’an says that women have souls in exactly the same way as men and will enter Paradise if they do good :

Enter into Paradise, you and your wives, with delight. (43:70) Who so does that which is right, and believes, whether male or female, him or her will We quicken to happy life. (16:97) The Qur’an admonishes those men who oppress or ill-treat women: O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will.

Nor should you treat them with harshness, that you may take away part of the dowry you have given them – except when they have become guilty of open lewdness. On the contrary live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If you take a dislike to them, it may be that you dislike something and Allah will bring about through it a great deal of good.

(4:19) Considering the fact that before the advent of Islam the pagan Arabs used to bury their female children alive, make women dance naked in the vicinity of the Ka’ba during their annual fairs, and treat women as mere chattels and objects of sexual pleasure possessing no rights or position whatsoever, these teachings of the Noble Qur’an were revolutionary.

Unlike other religions, which regarded women as being possessed of inherent sin and wickedness and men as being possessed of inherent virtue and nobility, Islam regards men and women as being of the same essence created from a single soul. The Qur’an declares: O mankind! Reverence your Guardian-Lord, who created you from a single person, created, of like nature, his mate, and from this pair scattered (like seeds) countless men and women.

Reverence Allah, through Whom you demand your mutual (rights), and reverence the wombs (that bore you); for Allah ever watches over you. (4:1)

2. The Prophet of Islam (peace be upon him) said, “Women are the twin halves of men.” The Qur’an emphasizes the essential unity of men and women in a most beautiful simile:

They (your wives) are your garment and you are a garment for them. (2:187) Just as a garment hides our nakedness, so do husband and wife, by entering into the relationship of marriage, secure each other’s chastity. The garment gives comfort to the body; so does the husband find comfort in his wife’s company and she in his.

“The garment is the grace, the beauty, the embellishment of the body, so too are wives to their husbands as their husbands are to them.” Islam does not consider woman “an instrument of the Devil”, but rather the Qur’an calls her muhsana – a fortress against Satan because a good woman, by marrying a man, helps him keep to the path of rectitude in his life.

It is for this reason that marriage was considered by the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) as a most virtuous act. He said: “When a man marries, he has completed one half of his religion.” He enjoined matrimony on Muslims by saying: “Marriage is part of my way and whoever keeps away from my way is not from me (i.e.

is not my follower).” The Qur’an has given the raison d’être of marriage in the following words: And among His signs is this, that He has created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquillity with them; and He has put love and mercy between you. Verily in that are signs for those who reflect.

(30:21)

• The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was full of praise for virtuous and chaste women. He said:

“The world and all things in the world are precious but the most precious thing in the world is a virtuous woman. He once told the future khalif, ‘Umar: “Shall I not inform you about the best treasure a man can hoard? It is a virtuous wife who pleases him whenever he looks towards her, and who guards herself when he is absent from her.”

2. On other occasions the Prophet said:

“The best property a man can have is a remembering tongue (about Allah), a grateful heart and a believing wife who helps him in his faith.” And again: “The world, the whole of it, is a commodity and the best of the commodities of the world is a virtuous wife.” Before the advent of Islam women were often treated worse than animals.

The Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: “Fear Allah in respect of women.” And: “The best of you are they who behave best to their wives.” And: “A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good.” And: “The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is.” The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage).

In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said: “Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah.

You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means.” In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter.

She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice.

He showed them that supporting their female children would act as a screen for them against the fire of Hell: It is narrated by the Prophet’s wife, ‘A’isha, that a woman entered her house with two of her daughters. She asked for charity but ‘A’isha could not find anything except a date, which was given to her.

The woman divided it between her two daughters and did not eat any herself. Then she got up and left. When the Prophet (peace be upon him) came to the house, ‘A’isha told him about what had happened and he declared that when the woman was brought to account (on the Day of Judgment) about her two daughters they would act as a screen for her from the fires of Hell.

The worst calamity for a woman is when her husband passes away and, as a widow, the responsibility of maintaining the children falls upon her. In the Eastern World, where a woman does not always go out to earn her living, the problems of widowhood are indescribable. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) upheld the cause of widows.

Most of his wives were widows. In an age when widows were rarely permitted to remarry, the Prophet encouraged his followers to marry them. He was always ready to help widows and exhorted his followers to do the same. Abu Hurairah reported that the Prophet said: “One who makes efforts (to help) the widow or a poor person is like a mujahid (warrior) in the path of Allah, or like one who stands up for prayers in the night and fasts in the day.” Woman as mother commands great respect in Islam.

• The Noble Qur’an speaks of the rights of the mother in a number of verses.
• It enjoins Muslims to show respect to their mothers and serve them well even if they are still unbelievers.
• The Prophet states emphatically that the rights of the mother are paramount.
• Abu Hurairah reported that a man came to the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) and asked: “O Messenger of Allah, who is the person who has the greatest right on me with regards to kindness and attention?” He replied, “Your mother.” “Then who?” He replied, “Your mother.” “Then who?” He replied, “Your mother.” “Then who?” He replied, “Your father.” In another tradition, the Prophet advised a believer not to join the war against the Quraish in defense of Islam, but to look after his mother, saying that his service to his mother would be a cause of his salvation.

Mu’awiyah, the son of Jahimah, reported that Jahimah came to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and said, ” Messenger of Allah! I want to join the fighting (in the path of Allah) and I have come to seek your advice.” He said, “Then remain in your mother’s service, because Paradise is under her feet.” The Prophet’s followers accepted his teachings and brought about a revolution in their social attitude towards women.

They no longer considered women as a mere chattels, but as an integral part of society. For the first time women were given the right to have a share in inheritance. In the new social climate, women rediscovered themselves and became highly active members of society rendering useful service during the wars which the pagan Arabs forced on the emerging Muslim umma.

They carried provisions for the soldiers, nursed them, and even fought alongside them if it was necessary. It became a common sight to see women helping their husbands in the fields, carrying on trade and business independently, and going out of their homes to satisfy their needs.

1. ‘A’isha reported that Saudah bint Zam’ah went out one night.
2. ‘Umar saw her and recognized her and said, “By God, O Saudah, why do you not hide yourself from us?” She went back to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and told him about it while he was having supper in her room, and he said, “It is permitted by Allah for you to go out for your needs.” The predominant idea in the teachings of Islam with regard to men and women is that a husband and wife should be full-fledged partners in making their home a happy and prosperous place, that they should be loyal and faithful to one another, and genuinely interested in each other’s welfare and the welfare of their children.

A woman is expected to exercise a humanizing influence over her husband and to soften the sternness inherent in his nature. A man is enjoined to educate the women in his care so that they cultivate the qualities in which they, by their very nature, excel.

These aspects were much emphasized by the Prophet (peace be upon him). He exhorted men to marry women of piety and women to be faithful to their husbands and kind to their children. He said: “Among my followers the best of men are those who are best to their wives, and the best of women are those who are best to their husbands.

To each of such women is set down a reward equivalent to the reward of a thousand martyrs. Among my followers, again, the best of women are those who assist their husbands in their work, and love them dearly for everything, save what is a transgression of Allah’s laws.” Once Mu’awiyah asked the Prophet (peace be upon him), “What are the rights that a wife has over her husband?” The Prophet replied, ” Feed her when you take your food, give her clothes to wear when you wear clothes, refrain from giving her a slap on the face or abusing her, and do not separate from your wife, except within the house.” Once a woman came to the Prophet with a complaint against her husband.

He told her: “There is no woman who removes something to replace it in its proper place, with a view to tidying her husband’s house, but that Allah sets it down as a virtue for her. Nor is there a man who walks with his wife hand-in-hand, but that Allah sets it down as a virtue for him; and if he puts his arm round her shoulder in love, his virtue is increased tenfold.” Once he was heard praising the women of the tribe of Quraish, “.because they are the kindest to their children while they are infants and because they keep a careful watch over the belongings of their husbands.” The Shari’ah regards women as the spiritual and intellectual equals of men.

The main distinction it makes between them is in the physical realm based on the equitable principle of fair division of labor. It allots the more strenuous work to the man and makes him responsible for the maintenance of the family. It allots the work of managing the home and the upbringing and training of children to the woman, work which has the greatest importance in the task of building a healthy and prosperous society.

It is a fact, however, that sound administration within the domestic field is impossible without a unified policy. For this reason the Shari’ah requires a man, as head of the family, to consult with his family and then to have the final say in decisions concerning it. In doing so he must not abuse his prerogative to cause any injury to his wife.

Any transgression of this principle involves for him the risk of losing the favor of Allah, because his wife is not his subordinate but she is, to use the words of the Prophet (peace be upon him), ‘the queen of her house’, and this is the position a true believer is expected to give his wife.

What does Allah say about wife?

Background on the roles of men and women in Islam – The Qur’an states that men are in charge of women because God has favored one over the other and they are responsible to provide them. Women, however, are given a degree of autonomy over their own income and property.

Nevertheless, they are responsible for educating the children, as God has given the one preference over the other. Man is also considered to be the head of the family. The Qur’an recommends that wives be obedient and adaptable to their husbands. Wives should also keep the secrets of their husbands and protect their honor and integrity.

Islamic scholars consider this important in running a smooth family system. Divorced women shall wait concerning themselves for three monthly periods. Nor is it lawful for them to hide what Allah Hath created in their wombs, if they have faith in Allah and the Last Day.

What is a husband’s responsibility to his wife Islam?

Strengthen the Marital Bond – A husband must ensure to meet the physical needs of his woman. There is no limit prescribed yet Islam orders him to meet the sexual requirement to the point where the wife is not committing a crime by eyeing opposite gender with the intention of satisfying her needs.

What do men want in a wife?

What Does a Man Need Most From His Wife? – Just like a woman would want from her husband, a man often needs love, loyalty and trust most from his wife. Alongside other qualities such as support, kindness and compatibility.

What a woman needs from her husband?

2. She wants your affection and care. – Everyone wishes to feel loved. As a wife, she surely needs affection from her husband. In marriage, love and affection are exclusively the hallmarks of an emotional relationship. One thing is clear that a woman needs love from her partner in the form of affection.

A wife is high for affection in their marriage, whether she is newly wedded or have expended a couple of years in the wedding. She likes to know that she is respected and loved by her husband. As an outstanding husband, you prefer to pay some valuable time with your soulmate. Be affectionate to her, and give interest to her little demands and desires.

And try to be sweet in your words and kind in her actions. There are different ways to show affection and be affectionate, though most often we think of affection in its physical expression. To be the best husband you can be, it’s important to figure out how your wife feels most love.

• In your marriage relationship, If affection has been needing, it’s something you can legislate relatively, simply you give the effort to express your affection each day.
• It doesn’t have to be a great deal but simply doing to attach physically every day give rise to a big difference in your relationship.

In truth, daily physical affection is one of the prime habits of a pleased couple.

What is husbands responsibility to wife?

Infographic: 7 Ways A Good Husband Can Show His Wife Love – The role of a good husband is to be respectful to his wife, communicate openly with her, fulfill your commitments, and be there for her. Apart from this, a good husband should be loyal, passionate, and make an effort to make the marriage work. Illustration: StyleCraze Design Team While the expectations from a wife are many and widely spoken about, a husband’s role in maintaining the relationship and nourishing a healthy family is also pivotal. As a loving husband and a doting father, you are the anchor of your family. A lot of work, effort, dedication, loyalty and love goes into nurturing a family.

What are the 3 blessings of marriage?

Marriage has three blessings. The first is children, to be received and raised for God’s service. The second is the loyal faithfulness by which each serves the other. The third is the sacrament of matrimony, which signifies the inseparable union of Christ with His Church.

What is the secret to a long lasting marriage?

Communicate clearly and often – Talking with your spouse is one of the best ways to keep your marriage healthy and successful. Be honest about what you’re feeling, but be kind and respectful when you communicate. Part of good communication is being a good listener and taking the time to understand what it is your spouse wants and needs from you.

How a husband should treat a wife in Islam?

He must not resort to anger or violence. He must not make his wife feel that she is being ordered about or else she would react unpleasantly. The best way is, for the man, to be kind and understanding.

What is a husband’s responsibility to his wife Islam?

Strengthen the Marital Bond – A husband must ensure to meet the physical needs of his woman. There is no limit prescribed yet Islam orders him to meet the sexual requirement to the point where the wife is not committing a crime by eyeing opposite gender with the intention of satisfying her needs.

What are the duties of a husband over his wife in Islam?

Husband and Wife: Mutual Rights and Obligations – Home First of all, we’d like to state that in Islam the marriage of a man and a woman is not just a financial and physical arrangement of living together but a sacred contract, a gift of God, to lead a happy, enjoyable life and continue the lineage.

1. The main goal of marriage in Islam is the realization of tranquility and compassions between the spouses.
2. For the attainment of this supreme goal, Islam defined certain duties and rights for the husband and wife.
3. For a detailed account of these mutual duties and rights, we’d like to cite the following: “Piety is the basis of choosing the life partner.

Many are the statements of the Qur’an and the that prescribe kindness and equity, compassion and love, sympathy and consideration, patience and good will. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, says, “The best Muslim is the one who is best to his family.” Also, he says, ” and the most blessed joy in life is a good, righteous wife.” (Reported by At-Tirmidhi) The role of the husband evolves around the moral principle that it is his solemn duty to Allah to treat his wife with kindness, honor, and patience; to keep her honorably or free her from the marital bond honorably; and to cause her no harm or grief.

Allah Almighty says: “consort with them in kindness, for if ye hate them it may happen that ye hate a thing wherein Allah hath placed much good.” (An-Nisa’: 19). The role of the wife is summarized in the verse that women have rights even as they have duties, according to what is equitable; but men have a degree over them.

Allah Almighty says, “And they (women) have rights similar to those (of men) over them in kindness, and men are a degree above them. Allah is Mighty, Wise.” (Al-Baqaraqh: 228) This degree is usually interpreted by Muslim scholars in conjunction with another passage which states, among other things, that men are trustees, guardians, and protectors of women because Allah has made some of them excel others and because men expend of their means.

Allah Almighty says: “Men are in charge of women, because Allah hath men the one of them to excel the other, and because they spend of their property (for the support of women). So good women are the obedient, guarding in secret that which Allah hath guarded. As for those from whom ye fear rebellion, admonish them and banish them to beds apart, and scourge them.

Then if they obey you, seek not a way against them. Lo! Allah is ever High Exalted, Great.” (An-Nisa’: 34)

What is the responsibility of husband toward wife?

3. Love Your Wife Unconditionally – The foundation of any marriage is love and trust. These two qualities go together. Loving your wife is one of the primary responsibilities of a husband. You must satisfy her emotionally by assuring her that you love, respect, and value her. Not just verbally, but this must also appear in your everyday actions.